These two videos show some of the scences in the Disney movie, Lady and the Tramp. It is actually a love story between two dogs that came from different backgrounds. The female cocker spaniel, Lady was a Christmas gift from Jim to his wife. When she turned six months, she was given a collar and was allowed to leave the house. She befriended two other dogs who lived down the street. The start of the love scene was when a male mutt named Tramp saw Lady in her big house. They started to pick out information on each other by having small talks. He was a stray whereas she belonged to a rich family. He was attracted to her physical apperance. From the first meeting, the story takes us through on the journey of adventures they went through as they fell in love. Their proxemics drew closer at each meeting. From a public distance, it moved slowly to social distance as Tramp entered the circle of friends Lady had. He took her out and moved on to maintaing casual distance as friends. After the restaurant scene where Tramp and Lady shared a plate of spaghetti and their first kiss, their distance narrowed to intimate distance. Then they started to disclose their feelings for one another. They began to have more private outings and spent more time being with each other with the exclusion of others. Commitment increases and they started to move around as a couple. As we can see from the movie, Tramp felt the need to fit in at first because he was not brought up in a rich family like Lady. So he was very mindful of his gestures and eating habits. However, as the relationship grew, they beagn to be more comfortable with who they were and physical apperance and status took a back seat. Tramp was attracted to her beauty but Lady was attracted to the the experience she could gain from his company. Therefore, their relationship was based upon dissimilarities but the complement each other so well.

Lady also shared a close bonding with Jim and his wife. She was the centre of attraction and always got the love she needed. However, when Jim’s wife was pregnant, Lady felt insecure. She knew their priorities would change. Upon seeing the baby at birth, Lady changed her views and grew protective of the baby. When Lady ran into some trouble with the vicious dogs in town, Tramp came to her rescue and single-handedly fought with them to protect her.  Such non-verbal cues and signals shows us the concern he had for Lady.

From the first scene when Lady was presented to Jim’s wife, to the last scene when Lady and Tramp had their own puppies, the use of haptics to indicate love, concern and hatred is common. Dogs use the form of licking to show love. Patting and cudling  is how humans show affection towards them. They rub their faces against one another to show love and intimacy. Lack of haptics and greater distance shows hatred or unacceptance. The use of artifacts such as the collar gifted to Lady, shows us how precious she is to Jim and his wife. It also gives Lady a form of status within the group of dogs as she had an expensive and shiny collar while the rest did not. The use of oculesics when Jim’s wife looks at her baby shows us the relationship she shares with her baby. The use of eye contact in some of the love scenes between Lady and Tramp shows us the intensity of love. Gazing into each other’s eyes is a romantic use of non-verbal cue to show love. Sequence is also used in this movie. Tramp, being the male character, would usually be the one who initiates the outing and picks Lady up before the outing at her place.  This shows us that he is trying to impress Lady and is being a gentleman as it is a stereotypical view that the male has to make the first move and continue to impress the lady therafter.  They expressed their feelings for one another by using symbols such as by drawing a heart on the cement and engraving their names in it. They showed their accepatance to this relationship by imprinting their paws in the heart. Doing it on cement and not sand shows us that they are establishing that place as their territory. 

The movie uses great pathos via display of appropriate emotions and words to fit the scene. gestures complemented each scene and the music sets the mood be it happy, sad, fearful or angry. Due to their differnce in upbringing and background, we can see how this would sometimes create a barrier while communicating. Tramp would watch how Lady reacted to a situation and then he would copy her behaviour. He used her as a guide so that he would not embarass himself. We can sense a little bit of inferiority complex at the start of the relationship. However, as the relationship develops, Tramp boldly displays his habits of rolling in the mud and eating in a messy way. As they are already commited to the relationship, impressions takes a back seat so they are more accepting towards each other’s flaws and habits.  Lady plays along in the mud and joins in the fun to show Tramp that it is ok to be who he really is. This boosts Tramp’s confidence level.

Their relationship goes through the process of engagement and management but does not go through dissengagement. It ends with them happily together with their four puppies. Like every relatiopnship though, they also went through a conflict when Lady was captured by the dog catcher and put in the pound with other stray dogs in the town. There, the other dogs told Lady that Tramp has had many girlfriends but was never serious with any one of them. He was just fooling around. Upon release, Lady refused to see Tramp and she never wanted to speak to him again. However, after Tramp helped to save the baby from a rat and got into trouble when others misunderstood his actions, Lady forgave hima dn understood his true love for her. This ends on a happy note.

I think this a cute and wonderful love story between two dogs. Everyone should watch it. Please feel free to leave any comments on the clips or the story review.  


{February 23, 2008}   Interpersonal

Interpersonal communication is communication that involves two people. Its is usually direct and informal. Interpersonal communication is important in forming 

interpersonal relationships. In some cultures, interpersonal relationships are established by different forms of interpersonal communication. For example, in Japan, status

and superiority plays an important role in interpersonal communication. Respect is given to the person who is of a higher status or superior in terms of the relationship

between a boss and a subordinate. The person who is from a lower status bows and initiates greeting in interpersonal communication. Society emphasises manners and

respect while communicating. Japanese do not engage in physical contact publicly. It is uncommon to see normal handshakes as  a form of greeting.  Although  arranged

marriages are common, dating is becoming quite common for working adults. Schools discourage dating but teenagers often engage in group dating.

In America, interpersonal relationships take up a whole new meaning. Non-verbal communication such as haptics are commonly used to define one’s relationship with the

other person. Americans are also more vocal and do not hesitate to speak their minds regardless of status, gender and superiority. Dating is common however, interpersonal

relationships within the family varies. According to a survey done by the Parental Authority Questionnaire (PAQ) and the Assessment of Interpersonal Relations (AIR)  , they

found that interpersonal relationships within a family was dependent on the parenting styles of each family. Parenting styles were mainly split into 3 styles, authoritarian,

permissive and authoritative. Those who had authoritative parents had a closer relationship with

their parents compared to those who had authoritarian and permissive parents.

Culture also influenced the groups of people whom children established an interpersonal relationship with. During the filltering stage, when we filter out people whom we do 

not want to have a relationship with, our decisions are affected by our upbringing, culture and personal constructs. We have a  criteria based on which we choose whom to

establish different levels of relationships with. Our most intimate relationship often is established with someone of close proxemics. Being visible and spending quality time

together so that we can have face-face communication, is an important criteria for interpersonal relationships. An  example of how culture influences our choice is a study to

show that African -American children were more attached to their parents as compared to their friends and teachers. The White-American children had a better

interpersonal relationship with their peers and teachers but not as much with their parents. This maybe due to the lack of time spent with their parents and the family 

upbringing. Families have a way of life and set of beliefs they impart to their family members. If family closeness is not an emphasis, children do not bond with their family 

and they donot share thoughts with one another.

There are four specific perspectives from which to study interpersonal communication:

Relational (Qualitative)
Communication in which the roles of sender and receiver are shared 
by two people simultaneously in order to create meaning.

Situational (Contextual)
Communication that occurs between two people in a specific context.

Dyadic interactions, including impersonal communication.

Functional (Strategic)
Communication for the purpose of achieving interpersonal goals.

In my next post, I will be analysing the interpersonal communication and interpersonal relationships shared by the characters in the disney movie-The Lady and The Tramp.

{February 19, 2008}   still going strong!

img015.jpgimg015.jpgI was heading back from school when i decided to pick up a copy of Women’s Weekly to keep me occupied throughout the journey.(its a long way back home….) An article in it

caught my attention. I was attracted to this advertisment as it was hard to miss it due to the size of the picture. There was a picture of a family of four having breakfast. They

seemed like a happy family. Naturally, i though this advertisment is about family and staying together happily or something along that line. The words influenced me to think

that way too. The headings read, “fifteen years of petty squabbles, uncountable cold wars, two active kids later…And still going strong.” The words sounded like an

advertisment that is sending out a message to all families who are having fights and problems and encouraging them to sort their differences and stay together. However,

when i read the bottom prints which were smaller in size, i realised that they were advertising the break and chip-reisitant, microwavable plates that was in the picture on the

breakfast tables. Intresting choice of words that can be misinterpreted as we form judgements based on the family picture and our knowledge on family squabbles and rising

divorce rates. The plates were made of three layers glass for extra protection from breking especiall for families which have active kids. Although the main point of the

advertisment was not evident at first, it is a creative way of looking at the quality of plates they sell. Afterall, their target audiences are the housewives who are concerned

about breakable plates especially if they have young children. The durability of the plates was clearly illustrated in the advertisment.

{February 17, 2008}   5 types of kinesics

Hey guys i know we all got confused over the types of kinesics that was tested in quiz 2. Illustrators and regulators etc. So what i did was to surf the net and i came up with some examples of all these five types of kinesics used in communication. Hope it will help you gain a better understanding on this topic. read the examples below.

 Kinesics is the non-verbal behaviour related to movement, either of any part of the body, or the body as a whole. In short all communicative body movements are generally classified as kinesic. There are basically five different types of kinesics; emblems, regulators, illustrators, affective display and adaptors.


Emblems are non-verbal cues that have a verbal counterpart.For example, the British sign for Victory (forefinger and middle finger erect) symbolises the letter V, a sign for victory often seen painted onto house walls during WWII. However, the same movement may symbolise the number two in the US and may be seen as insulting in Australia.
Another example is the “ok” sign made by forming a circle with your thumb and forefinger and streching out the rest of the three fingers. This may be seen as an indication for zero or the number three in some countries. It is considered obscene in Australia though. Emblems as such are a bewildering array of different meanings. The list of possible interpretations and different meanings is, unfortunately, sheer endless. In short, emblems are signs used to refer to certain words. Its interpretation may vary across different cultures and groups of people.


Regulators are non-verbal signs that regulate, modulate and maintain the flow of speech during a conversation. These can be both kinesic, such as the nodding of a head, as well as nonkinesic, such as eye movements. They are often used as feedback to find out if one is clear of the instructions given or if the audience is intrested in the speech. Different cultures use different forms of regulators to show confusion or understanding of a certain information. For example, the white american students may use sounds such as “uh-huh” followed by nodding of the head to indicate understanding. However, the black american students use silence to show understanding. Therefore, it may lead to confusion for the white americans as to whether the black students understand what is being said. Regulators may also modulate the flow of speech when someone who wishes to interrupt with a point, he/she raises up his/her hand to indicate that he/she has something to say. This action is a form of regulator as it controls the flow of speech by an interuption and changes it flow towards a new speaker.


Illustrators are used more consistently to illustrate what is being said. For example pointing to something that you are discussing about. It reinforces what you are saying. Again, the usage and the amount of illustrators used is different from culture to culture. For example Latin cultures in general make more use of illustrators than Anglo-Saxon cultures. And again, Anglo-Saxon cultures make more use of illustrators than many Asian cultures. In Asian culture, the use of illustrators show lack of intelligence while the absence of illustrators, indicate lack of intrest in the Latin culture.

Affective Display:

Affective Displays are body, or more frequently facial, movements that display a certain affective state, i.e. emotions. A lack of such affective displays may well be understood as a lack of emotion, which in turn is probably wrong. Different cultures may practice the displaying of emotions differently. Although two people may be feeling just as angry, their display of anger may be totally different. One may blow up in the face while the other may use silence to show displeasure. Therefore the lack of display may not indicate the  lack of emotions.


Adaptors include postural changes and other movements at a low level of awareness, frequently made to feel more comfortable or to perform a specific physical function. Because adaptors are usually carried out a low level of awareness, they have been hailed as the secret to understanding what your conversation partner really thinks. A slumped posure indicates that you have low spirits, fatigued or that you feel inferior.Whereas, an erect posture shows high spirits and confidence. If you lean foward it implies that you are open and interested. Leaning away shows disinterest and defensiveness. Maintaining a rigid posture may mean that you are defensive, while a relaxed posture may translate to openess. Crossed legs and arms shows unwillingness to listen while uncrossed arms and leg indicates that you are approcahable.

I hope you have gotten a better view of this topic. It is actually not that difficult after all. Enjoy your weekend!

{February 10, 2008}   Haptics

Haptics refers to touch. Touch is an important aspect in life. Touching and being touched is a basic need which many of us do not realise. Deprivation of touch may lead to mental, physical, social disorders and even death. Never though it was that important right? Read the following example:

Withholding touch from infants generally tends to maintain results of the largest consequences. History has proven that deprivation of touch to infants is quite detrimental, even fatal. Hygienic institutes in 1920 experienced a near 100% infant death rate. Medical scientists were confused. The children were well-fed and well taken care of but left virtually untouched. By the late 1920’s, various changes were made to infant care facilities, including the provision of “mothering.” Infants were held, rocked and stroked by nurses at feeding time and other particular periods. Death rates immediately dropped to 40%.

Infants also learn the exsistence of their body parts via touch. Without sufficient touch, a child may not develop mentally and therefore suffer from retardation. Hugging, cradling and even inflicting pain, are some form of touch that a child needs to be exposed to in order to learn about love, affection, self identity and danger.

Different cultures view haptics in a different manner. For example, Americans are most comfortable with a handshake. Personal space is important to them. However, although they may refrain from touching one another, they do need to fulfil their basic needs. Thus they turn to touching their pets, touching themselves, hugging pillows and even getting ‘liscensed touchers”  to make up for the absence. Americans depend on masseurs, hospital attendants, chiropractors, and pastors to supply them with the necessary care, affection, and support.

Habitants of Europe are generally more touch-inclined than Americans, with the exception of the English; haptics behaviors actually are more scarce in England. French greetings are filled with touch–it is a custom to kiss both cheeks upon greeting someone in France. Frequent pats and nudges exemplify the interpersonal norm in Germany.

Greeting and haptic habits vary quite drastically geographically. In the middle east, heterosexual male friends may hold hands when in each other’s presence–a behavior that may be judged as odd in other parts of the world. In Japan it is not uncommon for an entire family to bathe together, until the children reach age 10. Whereas Japanese children receive more physical attention, much more than American or English children, at this point haptic behavior comes to a sudden halt.In many Arab countries, men frequently touch each other in public, or walk arm in arm down the street. This behaviour could suggest a sexual relationship between them in other cultures.

Remland and Jones (1995) recorded the touching behaviour of a number of different groups of people while communicating. They found that in England (8%), France (5%) and the Netherlands (4%) touching was relatively rare compared to their Italian (14%) and Greek (12.5%) sample.

The degree of touch we engage in also tells us the relationship we share with the person by comparing our touching behaviour with the social norm. Haptics can help a person to recover from depression, counsel a frightened child and build a lasting relationship with people more compared to the extent of what words can do. The disabled, old aged, terminally ill and the mentally unstable people, are some groups of people who get very little exposure to human touch. This may affect the rate of recovery. That is why pets are being introduced in hospitals as part of the treatment for the terminally ill. The touch and warmth they recieve form these animals have proven to improve their speed of recovery tremendously.

Read the following and watch how people find it so hard to communicate when they simply can’t understand the slang or just the poor execution of the english language. Try reading it out loud and you will see how funny it actually sounds.


It’s amazing, you will understand the above word by the end of the conversation…

Read aloud for best results. “Tendjewberrymud” Be warned, you’re going to find yourself talking “funny” for a while after reading this.

The following is a telephone exchange between a hotel guest and room-service at a hotel in Asia, which was recorded and published in the FarEast Economic Review…

Room Service (RS): “Morny. Ruin sorbees”

Guest (G): “Sorry, I thought I dialled room-service”

RS: “Rye..Ruin sorbees..morny! Djewish to odor sunteen??”

G: “Uh..yes..I’d like some bacon and eggs”

RS: “Ow July den?”

G: “What??”

RS: “Ow July den?…pry, boy, pooch?

G : “Oh, the eggs! How do I like them? Sorry, scrambled please.”

RS: “Ow July dee bayhcem…crease?”

G: “Crisp will be fine.”

RS : “Hokay. An San tos?”

G: “What?”

RS: “San tos. July San tos?”

G: “I don’t think so”

RS: “No? Judo one toes??”

G: “I feel really bad about this, but I don’t know what ‘judo one
toes’ means.”

RS: “Toes! toes!…why djew Don Juan toes? Ow bow singlish mopping
we bother?”

G: “English muffin!! I’ve got it! You were saying ‘Toast.’ Fine.
Yes,an English muffin will be fine.”

RS: “We bother?”

G: “No..just put the bother on the side.”

RS: “Wad?”

G: “I mean butter…just put it on the side.”

RS: “Copy?”

G: “Sorry?”

RS: “Copy…tea…mill?”

G: “Yes. Coffee please, and that’s all.”

RS: “One Minnie. Ass ruin torino fee, strangle ache, crease baychem,
tossy singlish mopping we bother honey sigh, and copy….rye??”

G: “Whatever you say”

RS: “Tendjewberrymud”

G : “You’re welcome.”

Haha..i call that really bad communication skills by the room service department. Good communication is ruined by the use of poor language-(idols of the marketplace). We may find it very difficult to understand the lingo, slang, pronounciation and words, codes and other abrevations that a person uses while communicating. This leads to miscommunication. One may not be able to have a fluent and effective conversation when it is difficult to grasp what the person is saying. Especially so over the phone, when there is no non-verbal cues to help one understand the conversation.

Hey guys take a break from all that studying and watch Tom and Jerry! Haha.. actually i was watching Tom and Jerry on the television yesterday and i realised that in this cartoon both the characters do not use words to tell the story or express any of their feelings. Press play and watch it. This cartoon actually rely alot on the background music and body language to explain the story. They use a louder sound when Tom is walking and a softer and more animated sound effect when Jerry is walking. This is related to their size obviously. When they are happy, sad, scared, angry or shocked, the music will change accordingly to tell us the mood of the character. Movies and cartoons use alot of sound effect to narrate the story without the use of words. The character’s body language then coincides with the sound effect. We put this two together and form an understanding of what is happening. A more dramatic and loud sound effect is used when Tom comes into play and expresses its anger and annoyance towards Jerry’s behaviour. This shows us which character is more violent and dominant in the story. Jerry’s character is friendly and helpful. Therefore, it is usually accompanied with an animated and cute sound effect. The sound effect is usually draggy and increasing in volume when there is something that is going to happen. This prepares us for the next scene and viewers know that they are expecting for something to appear or happen between the two characters. When running, the pace of the music increases and when tip-toeing, the sound effect is short, and jumpy. This tells us that the contact of the foot with the ground is quick and short. When showing a magic trick, the use of stars and other visual effects along with a darggy tune that ends with a “TA-DAH”, tells us that something magical has happened. These symbols are often associated with magic so the viewer can relate to it from past experiences. Music tells us alot and it can replace words if it is further emphasised by good body language and facial expressions.
Enjoy! Wishing all of you a happy and prosperous Chinese New Year..

{February 3, 2008}   More non-verbal animations

Here are a few more clips on the use of non-verbal communications by the UNICEF to send a message to viewers from all around the world.
This second one is on the child’s rights to self expression. In this clip, we can see a child who uses his creativity in block-building, a common activity played by small kids. He makes a structure using his imagination and creative expressions. However, due to his limitations in terms of his height, he is unable to complete the upper half of his structure. He then seeks help from his parents. Not paying attention to his cues on where he would like them to place the blocks on his behalf, they created a square block for him instead. Clearly displeased with the outcome, the child hangs his head in sadness. This is a common issue between a child and an adult. As an adult, one must understand that even a baby is entitled to his/her freedom of expressions. In the midst of helping a child or guiding them, we must not conform them to our way of doing things. Being a part-time pre-school teacher, this point is an important aspect that i think adults tend to overlook. Every child is different and every human being is different. We can teach a child the right thing but we must not restrict a child to one form of doing things. A child learns through his/her own creative skills and we should applaud and encourage these skills to further enhance their learning. In this clip, the parents created a big square block. This represents a ‘square mindset’ which does not encourage creativity. A child is full of imagination. ‘Thinking out of the box’, is a common topic teachers talk about in schools. If we look at a child, we will realise that every child is thinking out of the box. However, the lack of encouragement, restricts their creativity. That is why as we grow older, we find it harder to be creative and easier to conform. I think parents should asisst a child but allow the child to practice his own judgments and thoughts and not take everything in their hands, especially during play-time.

{February 3, 2008}   UNICEF uses non-verbal animations

The use of non-verbal cues in the animations created by the UNICEF to drive a message across the world is an effective method. It allows people to understand the message regardless of the language and cultural barriers. UNICEF has many focus areas ranging from problems faced by children around the world, to crisis faced by various countries. They try to spread the message of children’s rights, child labour, rights to a good education and a loving family. They raise issues on domestic violence, discrimination and good healthcare services. All these messages are put into a small video which uses no verbal form of communication to drive home the message. They hope that this method would allow maximum viewing and understanding of the issues raised. They use animated figures, often that of a child/children, caught in a situation or problem. The use of expressions and appropriate sound effects, tells us the ‘mood’ and fellings of the characters in the clip. They also use objects to represent a scene. For example, in the clip entitled “freedom from discrimination”, the use of a toy and animated music, would help us relate to a child. The toy pieces are all able to fit into the ‘ball’ if they have a suitable-shaped hole to enter through. The piece which is of a totally different shape would then not be able to fit into the ball. At this point, the cheerful background sound changes as the oddly shaped piece tries to enter into the ball but bounces right off after each attempt. This then translates into our world, where, the correctly shaped people and those who conform to the norms of our society, are able to fit in. While the rest who are different are not excepted as part of our society. The freedom from this form of discrimination comes when the ball opens up and the other pieces happily invites the odd piece in. This shows us that society have to open their doors and accept those who are different as part of our society. 

et cetera